Thanks to everyone for visiting during Eric Maisel's recent visit. We loved hearing both the public and private comments. By now, hopefully you're starting to realize how much your own internal thoughts influence your external actions and contribute to however things seem to be going with "the other woman".  Here's so more food for thought....

Something that gets in the way of improving your relationship with the other woman is judgment.  We all want to look like we have our act together.  We all want to be liked.  No matter where you are on the spectrum of partnership with the mother or stepmother in your life, judgment is bound to raise it's ugly head.

One of the keys to improving your relationship with each other is owning your own shit.  You know, admitting to the parts of you that help keep things cantankerous and conflict-ridden.  Surely this current state of affairs is ALL HER FAULT!

But maybe not.

We invite you to take a close-up look at the hamster churning out thoughts on the hamster wheel of your brain by taking our Own Your Own Shit Quiz.Rating Scale1- None, I swear   2- Maybe a smidgeon   3-Okay, fine, yes   4-Most definitely   5- Dear God, I can barely stand how I feel

The Joy of Being Judgmental! Quiz (please circle)

1       2       3       4       5I find myself critiquing her clothes

1       2       3       4       5I find myself critiquing her job (or lack of it)

1       2       3       4       5I find myself critiquing her intelligence or education (or lack of it)

1       2       3       4       5I find myself critiquing her personality (or lack of it) and mannerisms

1       2       3       4       5I find myself critiquing her friends, family and social status

1       2       3       4       5I find myself critiquing her looks

1       2       3       4       5I find myself critiquing her taste in music, movies, books, cultural knowledge

1       2       3       4       5I find myself critiquing her housekeeping skills (or lack thereof)

1       2       3       4       5I find myself critiquing her parenting skills (or again, lack thereof)

1       2       3       4       5I find myself critiquing the way she handles money

1       2       3       4       5I find myself critiquing her current and past romantic relationships

1       2       3       4       5Her emotional blind spots are like, so obvious to me!

Add up all the columns and find your Total Joy of Being Judgmental! Points.  Sorry, no fancy guide to interpret your results and we're sure you don't need one anyway.  Just look at which side of the scale you mostly ended up on.

Are you happy with your results?  What would you like to change?

 

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